Hi and welcome to Amazing Brilliant Gorgeous Wonderful. It's Cheryl here, and today we're talking about labels. Not the useful ones like milk, cereal, bread. I'm talking about the lazy ones. If you've ever been described as difficult, too much, intimidating, not approachable, this episode is for you. Yes, we're gonna be untying the meaning of those labels because they often say more about the environment than they do about you. Now isn't it amazing we have this thing called Word? And with Word we love to label things, and labels are fantastic, aren't they? Put a label on a woman, and suddenly everyone stops asking questions. Difficult, cold, emotional, overconfident, too direct, it's so efficient, it's incredibly lazy, and it's often nonsense. Let me ask you this. What does this situation mean about you? And who taught you that? Because meaning is where women get trapped, not in facts, in the interpretation. A woman sets a boundary and that means becoming she's selfish. A woman speaks clearly and the meaning becomes she's aggressive. A woman doesn't smile and the meaning becomes she's unfriendly. I mean, I have to admit I've fallen for this rubbish myself. And once mean hardens, you start defending yourself against the story instead of dealing with reality. You know what else could be true here? Maybe difficult means she's asked for clarity. Maybe cold means she didn't perform friendliness for free. Maybe emotional means she reacted like a human to pressure and disrespect. Is difficult just colded or non-compliant. Sometimes a workplace is fine with confident women and men as long as their confidence is decorative. Confidence that looks good in the brochure, good on the ad campaigns, confidence that doesn't challenge anyone, confidence that basically stays in its lane. But the thing is, Moxie doesn't exist to make other people comfortable. Moxie exists to help you stay true to who you are, for you to stay whole. Here's a reframe that caused mild outrage in certain rooms. Clarity can be kindness. Because ambiguity, I think, is one of the reasons stress lives. Ambiguity is where people swing stories, ambiguity is where women overthink themselves into exhaustion. So when you're clear, you're not being harsh. I think you're actually being merciful to yourself and actually to everyone else. Okay, you might be thinking if I stop trying to be liked, people hate me. And the thing is, some will, but some already do, and you've been bending yourself into a paper clip for their approval anyway. And if I'm myself, I'll be judged, if that's what you're thinking, yes, possibly. But here's the question I'd like you to think about what's the cost of living in an edited version of yourself? What would change if you were if you weren't trying to be light? Because role modelling isn't everyone loves me. You can see that in the world today, role model is I'm staying true, I'm staying steady, and I'm not abandon, I'm not abandoning myself to avoid a label that you might want to slap on me. That's that is what younger women need to see, I think. Not perfection, not popularity, proof. So next time we'll land this series where it actually lives. Because even the best mindset in the world collapses when you're exhausted and your nervous system is on fire. So just a quick recap Labels are cheap stickers, they stick fast and they stop people thinking. You don't have to live inside someone else's lazy story of you. Now, if anything in this episode landed, please subscribe, share, and repeat. Because every step you take, no matter how small, is a step towards a brighter, more balanced future. Trust your journey and remember progress is progress, no matter the pace. Bye for now.